Enforced Male Chastity

Hello, my lovely doms in waiting and beautiful little worms! This is Mistress Sarah again, back to talk to you today about the concept of enforced male chastity. One of the biggest decisions you’ll have to make if you decided to enter into a male chastity relationship is whether or not you want to use enforced male chastity or simple chastity play.

This is confusing for many people – after all, doesn’t male chastity imply some sort of enforcement by definition? The answer is, not really. We are all different and have different levels of comfort with our dominance and submission. So, let’s start off with some basic definitions:

  • Simple Male Chastity. This is male chastity belt play light. The male is put into chastity at the beginning of the evening before foreplay begins. Then he is kept in the cage while the couple makes out and until the woman has had her orgasm or is seeking penetration. At this point he is released and they make love. This is one of the most popular forms of chastity play, and is highly recommended for beginners.
  • Enforced Male Chastity. This, in my humble opinion, should be the end goal of all chastity play. While you may have to build up to it, the rewards for the woman are much, much greater than simple male chastity. Under this arrangement the male is kept in chastity at all times, day and night, except when the woman is prepared to give him release or make love. More often than not the male will have to earn his release – because, quite naturally, he can use his mouth and fingers to provide her orgasms while still remaining locked up. One of the simplest ways to have an enforced male chastity relationship is to start out with short periods of time between his orgasms – say, once a week – and then build up to longer times. I have found the best results come when the male is allowed roughly seven to 14 orgasms a year. In other words, he’s let out to play about every four weeks – though sometimes less often.

The benefits of enforced male chastity are immense. First, masturbation will become a thing of the past and all of his sexual energy will be focused on you. Plus, you will never, ever have to worry about him cheating on you again.

Beyond that, you can set up any system of rewards you want in order to get him to earn his release – and trust me, a man who has been locked up for a while will do anything to get a chance to let his little cockette breathe in the open air! Make him do your laundry and the dishes. Have him make the bed every morning. From now on, he can handle the grocery shopping!

This also gives you the chance to correct behavior that has been bothering you. For example, you could tell him that if he leaves his dirty clothes on the floor he will earn an extra day in chastity. If he decides to go out with his friends that could mean an extra three days. If he wants your mother-in-law to visit, he should certainly be willing to put up with an extra six weeks in the cage!

Over time, the series of rewards and punishments associated with enforced male chastity will turn your husband into the best man he can be. You can literally train him to do anything once you have control over his cock!

The important thing is that you really have to mean it! Men will often beg and plead and come up with excuses to get you to unlock them. Don’t feel bad for him or give in – or else you will have undone all the good work you’ve put your time and effort into.

Also, be aware that after his release, when he has had his orgasm, he may revert to bad behavior for a short period of time. His ejaculation will fuel his manly ego. This is why you need to get the cage back onto him as quickly as possible, so that he gets back into his proper place in the marriage.