Male Chastity Punishment
Many people understand the basics of male chastity, which is why male chastity devices are among the most popular sex toys sold in America today. From a simple point of view, male chastity involves putting him in a device that makes it impossible for him to have an erection or ejaculate until you unlock him.
This frees him from the temptation to masturbate, or waste time with online porn like a teenage boy. It also encourages him to do things to please you both in and out of the bedroom, so he will be able to earn his release. Remember, a man’s primary desire is to achieve orgasm. This is more important than food – so he will be willing to do anything for you, as soon as you get him under lock and key.
But, there is much more to the male chastity lifestyle than simply locking him up and throwing away the key. You need to tease him. You need to make him feel loved. And sometimes, when a man is in male chastity, you will need to punish him.
Male chastity is a training exercise that you are doing for his own good. Think of him as a child – he needs rewards when he’s been a good boy, and punishment when he’s been naughty. Over time, this will allow him to learn not to be naughty and to become the best husband possible.
In short, you can’t have the carrot without the stick! Which brings up the question of, what punishments are appropriate for a bad boy who is in male chastity? The truth is that the answer will depend on the couple and the severity of the infraction. But, here are the punishments I generally give my husband for various infractions:
- If he asks to be let out of male chastity or complains about male chastity. In this case I simply add another week in the device for every complaint or request that he makes. This shuts him up.
- If you find evidence that he has tried to tamper with or escape the device. This is a more serious infraction. In this case I add a full month to his chastity and spank his ass with my hairbrush 10 times.
- If you catch him looking at porn. This cannot be tolerated at all. For this I get a bowl of ice, and then I unlock him from his chastity device. I provide him manual stimulation until he is just about to orgasm. At that point I put ice on his penis and lock him back up. Ruining his potential orgasm this way is a lesson he will not soon forget.
- If you catch him flirting with another woman either online or in real life. Obviously this is a big no-no. In my opinion, a woman has two choices here depending on how dominant she feels. If you are a dominant woman you can unlock him, stimulate him and then pour hot candle wax on his penis. If you are less dominant you can simply tell him he has earned a full six months in chastity. If you are very, very dominant you can make him choose between the two punishments.
- If you catch him having cyber sex. Since he can’t have real sex, this is the closest thing to cheating he can do. There is only one acceptable punishment – a full year without a single orgasm.
What Is Tease And Denial?
Each and every day, your husband is being unfaithful to you – usually by masturbating while thinking of another woman or looking at porn. Every time he does so, he is using up part of his libido that should properly be directed at his loving wife. Beyond that, most men cannot resist temptation and if some hussy makes a move on him, he may be unable to resist.
The only way to protect against these very real dangers to your marriage is to make it impossible for him to masturbate or cheat on you in any other way. This is accomplished by locking him up with a male chastity device, and hiding the key or keeping it on you at all times.
When done correctly, this will not only make it impossible for him to get an erection or ejaculate without your permission; it will also turn him into a better husband! He’ll be more likely to help out around the house, he won’t want to waste time with his friends and he will become more romantic.
Of course, this doesn’t happen simply by locking him up. You have to also take action to train him. This process is often called “tease and denial” and it works on a very simple principle. You see, when a man is very sexually excited he is naturally programmed to do anything he can to achieve orgasm and ejaculation.
This means you can get him to make the responsible choices every woman wants her man to make, instead of the childish ones men tend to make on their own, as long as you are using tease and denial.
So, how do you do this? The first thing you need to do is wait until he is locked up, and then become as sexy as possible. Rub your breasts by his shoulders when you pass him in the hall. Walk around the house wearing sexy underwear. Kiss him deeply often.
Ask him to go down on you and tell him that if your orgasm is satisfactory in intensity, you might let him out of his male chastity belt. All of these things will keep him in a constant state of arousal that he can do nothing about.
When he’s in this state, every part of his psychology will tell him to do what you want him to do if it even gives him a small chance at sexual release. So, you can ask him to do the dishes, mow the lawn or take you out to a nice dinner – and he’ll eagerly agree!
Of course, there is a reason this is called ‘tease and denial” and not simply teasing. The vast majority of the time that he does things for you, you need to say “no” when he asks for release. Tell him it just wasn’t quite good enough – but that you are sure he will do better next time.
You do need to release him every so often – just enough so he always knows there is a chance that this time, he might not have to face the denial afterwards.
Most wives start out by only denying for a couple days at a time while they are teasing him. Then they work it up to longer and longer periods of time as part of his ongoing training. Of course, the tease and denial tasks he will be given will also become more difficult to accomplish over time.
I’ve found that the end goal of tease and denial should be to allow him to get his “little reward” every six weeks or so. With my partner, I make sure he ends up with less than 10 orgasms a year, though I have friends who are indulgent and allow them men up to 14 a year.
You’ll figure out what level of tease and denial works best for your wonderful male chastity belt relationship with a bit practice and experimentation.
