Now That You Are Under Chastity Lock And Key What Happens Next?
Enforced male chastity may be the best thing that can happen to any marriage. When a man is locked into male chastity, he can be trained to be a better husband and lover, more romantic and much more helpful. Plus, you will never again have to worry about him wasting his time on porn; and silly, selfish things like masturbation are a thing of the past.
Many men deep down inside know they would be much better off in a male chastity lock. Many women, once they hear about locking a man up in male chastity, see it as a perfect solution. But, one thing that holds many men back from agreeing to the lifestyle is that they wonder what will happen once they put the device on and are locked up. How will it change their lives? This makes sense. We all have a fear of the unknown. That’s why I want to let men get a better understanding of what will happen to them once they’ve made the right decision and given up control of their sexuality to their wives.
• First off, your wife will become more loving and attentive. She’ll dress sexier around you, give you more kisses and flirt with you more. Because you are now safe, she’ll want to tease you. Plus, because she’ll be so happy that you’re making this brave choice she’ll want to shower you with tons of affection.
• You’ll be intimate with your wife more often. Now that she doesn’t have to worry about sex being over as soon as you orgasm, she’ll be a lot friskier. You may find yourself giving her two or more orgasms a night. Won’t that be fun?
• Your orgasms will be much more intense. Right now your masturbation is desensitizing your penis. That means you are not getting the strong orgasms you should be. Once you are on a reasonable release schedule you’ll discover that you have the most amazing orgasms you’ve ever felt. Don’t you want that?
• You’ll discover new ways to please your wife. In fact, you’ll probably become the best lover she’s ever had. You’ll have to – because that’s one of the only ways you’ll earn your way out of your male chastity lock!
• Spending time with your friends will seem less and less important to you. Your main focus in life will become finding nice ways to make your wife or girlfriend happy. You’ll discover new levels of romantic love you may have never before thought possible.
• Over time you’ll be let out less and less often. For most couples, offering the man release once every four to six weeks is about right. But, don’t worry, you’ll always be sexually excited and you’ll learn to love how great it feels to be constantly turned on!
• You’ll discover you have a lot more free time on your hands. You probably don’t realize how much time you are currently wasting with masturbation, porn and sexual fantasies. You’ll be able to get a lot more done at work and around the house. You’ll feel so useful!
• Your wife will find ways to reward your good behavior and punish your bad behavior. Over time this will result in you becoming the husband of her dreams.
• You’ll no longer feel guilty about your silly little masturbation habit. You’ll feel like a real man who satisfies his woman rather than a little boy who plays with his pee-pee. You’ll finally be a grown-up!
See, now that you know what to expect it’s not that scary, is it? In fact, it’s perfectly natural and soon you’ll thank your wife for making this decision for you, because she knew it was the best thing for your relationship.
Popular Plastic Male Chastity CB Series Devices
These days, lots of couples are incorporating male chastity into their marriages because they find it makes their relationship better, controls his masturbation and makes him a better husband. Over time, it causes the couple to grow closer as he becomes more of the type of husband his wife always wanted.
Both husband and wife end up having more respect for each other than ever before, and the level of trust grows in their marriage. Of course, this takes time – you need to start small and build up before you can get to your goal. That’s why most couples start out with simple, inexpensive, plastic male chastity devices. You don’t want to scare him off by jumping right into steel devices or male chastity piercings.
There are two main types of plastic male chastity devices – cages and tubes. Cages are mesh and surround the penis and testicles. The advantage is that your husband can clean himself in the shower without your help. Tubes are sheaves that surround the penis and make it impossible for him to touch himself or get an erection. He’ll even have to sit down when he pees – which makes bathroom clean up a lot easier.
Now, your first decision is easy. Don’t ever consider a plastic chastity cage for your male chastity needs. The fact is that men can get desperate during their initial chastity training, and the plastic mesh is really easy to rip off.
Yes, he’ll get caught; but at that point he won’t care – and you’ll have wasted money on a device that didn’t meet your goals. Cages are great for when he’s ready to wear steel, but until then should be avoided.
Instead, you want to use a plastic male chastity tube. Of the ones available, the most popular is the CB line of products. The CB-3000 is the most popular plastic male chastity device in the world. It contains several locking rings and is fairly secure. It’s a great starter model.
Another popular model is called the Male Chastity CB Curve. It’s similar to the CB-3000, but forces his penis to be constantly curved so it’s facing the ground. This is great for psychological emasculation, but is nowhere near as secure as the CB-3000.
If the CB-3000 seems a little pricy to you – or if you are using male chastity as play and not a lifestyle – you can choose the CB-2000. It’s not as secure as the CB-3000, but it will work for short-term chastity games and can be a wonderful starter model. Many women choose this when they just want to lock their man up for an hour or two while he focuses on her pleasure. It does not come with locking rings, so you have to trust the security of the small padlock.
One of the downsides of the CB-3000 is that while it works well for average or well-endowed men, some men with smaller equipment found they could slip out of it by icing down their genital region.
That’s why the CB-5000 and CB-6000 were born. These are much more serious versions of the CB-3000, and have been designed to be secure even if your husband has the smallest pee-pee on the block. Both are great; but the CB-5000 only works with a male who has a penis piercing that it can be attached to. The CB-6000 will work with any male and is also available in designer colors and styles.
My advice is to start your man off with the CB-3000 or The Curve, and then after a couple months build him up to the CB-6000. Eventually, of course, you’ll want him in steel; but this is a lifestyle and a process, not a race to the finish line.
Steel Male Chastity Cages
Welcome back to Mistress Sarah’s beginner’s guide to male chastity. I hope you’ve been enjoying reading these articles as much as I’ve enjoyed writing them! During today’s lesson we are going to talk about male steel chastity cages.
First, you need to understand that there are several different options when it comes to male chastity – tubes, cages and piercings. The tubes and belts can be made of either steel or plastic, but the piercings should obviously be made of surgical steel.
With tubes and cages, the difference between choosing a plastic or steel device rests with how serious you are about male chastity and how much you trust your husband. To be blunt, if your husband gets desperate he can probably use the tools in his garage to break a plastic chastity cage or tube – but if he’s locked up in steel, he’d have to pay a welder to get out. That’s not very likely, is it? This is why I highly suggest steel chastity over the playtime plastic variety.
Now, lets talk about the differences between chastity tubes and chastity cages. Steel male chastity cages are shaped like wire baskets and lock around the penis and testicles. The advantage of a male steel chastity cage is that the space between the wires allows him to wash his private parts in the shower while remaining locked up.
The downside to a male steel chastity cage is that it does allow some sexual stimulation. Simply by running water over the cage in the shower, he will get sexual pleasure. The cage will prevent erections but it won’t stop all levels of sexual self-stimulation. And if your man is a premature ejaculator, he might be able to have a no-erection orgasm. This is rare – but it is a possibility that makes me shudder deep down to my core.
Steel chastity tubes are an entirely different matter. They wrap along the length of his penis, only allowing his little pee hole freedom at the tip. There is no way for him to stimulate his penis at all as long as he is locked up in the tube. The downside to the steel male chastity tube is that once a week or so, you will have to unlock him and wash his penis yourself so as to prevent him from getting infected.
I cannot stress this point enough – do not unlock him and let him go in the shower and wash his penis himself. He’ll masturbate instead and probably lie to you about, which is bad for your marriage and his natural male submission.
The question now is, how do you choose between a steel male chastity cage and a steel male chastity tube? My advice is that your long-term goal should be to get him in a tube, but in the short term it’s probably better to start off with a steel male chastity cage.
Men don’t have the same levels of natural endurance that we do, and the tube may scare him off at first. It’s better to give him the illusion of some level of freedom with a male chastity cage. Once he’s started to learn his place, you can give him the tube as a birthday or Christmas gift and make your control over his sexuality more naturally complete.
It should be noted that there is one great benefit to both male chastity cages and tubes: Both require him to sit down to pee – which means you’ll never have to deal with any messes from his little squirter.
Male Chastity Punishment
Welcome back to Mistress Sarah’s wonderful world of male chastity! In most of these articles, I’ve spent time talking about the benefits of male chastity. But, I should tell you that it’s not all fun and games. In fact, there can be no benefit to male chastity without punishment.
That’s why this edition will be dedicated to the basics of male chastity punishment. Don’t be scared. Remember, men are happiest when they are submitting to the woman they love. They are at their most miserable when they have freedom. But they live in denial and will try to get that freedom, even though they know deep down inside that they were born to submit.
You need to instill male chastity punishment as a way to correct this behavior and guide them to the incredible bliss that a man can only achieve when he has completely given up his sexuality to his partner.
The first question you will probably ask is, what exactly is male chastity punishment? At its most basic level, it is correcting your husband when he misbehaves in chastity. The easiest and most common male chastity punishment is to simply extend his chastity for extra days or weeks for each infraction. Because he will be desperate for release, this will work fairly well.
If he has been particularly bad, a more harsh form of male chastity punishment is the “ruined orgasm.” For this you need your key and a bowl of ice. Take him out of his cage and start masturbating him. Then, when he is very close to orgasm, take the ice and apply it to his cock. Then, lock him up again. He’ll have gotten close to orgasm but missed his chance. His frustration level will go sky high!
The ultimate form of male chastity punishment – and one that should only be used when there are serious infractions – is to show him exactly what he is missing. Find an ex-boyfriend or another man you want to make love with and bring him home; make your husband watch him penetrate you while he remains helplessly locked up. If you do this, it may be weeks before he misbehaves again!
Your next question will be: When do I institute male chastity punishment? This one is tricky, because, face it: Men are only human, and very weak creatures. There will probably be – especially at the start – many things he does every day that annoy you. You can’t waste time punishing him for every little disappointment.
But there are some things that always need to be punished, so let’s go over the basics:
- If he asks to be let out of his cage early. He shouldn’t be asking at all! That’s up to you! If you let him whine once, he’ll whine forever. Each time he complains, you should add at least one more day to his chastity.
- If you catch him looking at porn. This cannot be tolerated at all. If you catch him once, add at least a week onto his confinement as part of his male chastity punishment.
- If a specific chore is not done and he does not have a valid excuse. Again, if you let him get away with this once, he’ll never be a good boy. This should add a week of chastity onto his schedule.
- If he tries, but fails, to give you an orgasm with his mouth and fingers. He needs to learn how to please you without his cock. Any day he can’t is an extra day he should be kept in chastity.
- If you discover any attempt on his part to escape from the device. This is a big sin, and is one of the times I highly recommend giving him a ruined orgasm.
There it is – the basics of male chastity punishment! To learn more, please consider ordering my book, Beautiful Enslavement. It’s quite simply the right thing to do if you are serious about your relationship.
Enforced Male Chastity
Hello, my lovely doms in waiting and beautiful little worms! This is Mistress Sarah again, back to talk to you today about the concept of enforced male chastity. One of the biggest decisions you’ll have to make if you decided to enter into a male chastity relationship is whether or not you want to use enforced male chastity or simple chastity play.
This is confusing for many people – after all, doesn’t male chastity imply some sort of enforcement by definition? The answer is, not really. We are all different and have different levels of comfort with our dominance and submission. So, let’s start off with some basic definitions:
- Simple Male Chastity. This is male chastity belt play light. The male is put into chastity at the beginning of the evening before foreplay begins. Then he is kept in the cage while the couple makes out and until the woman has had her orgasm or is seeking penetration. At this point he is released and they make love. This is one of the most popular forms of chastity play, and is highly recommended for beginners.
- Enforced Male Chastity. This, in my humble opinion, should be the end goal of all chastity play. While you may have to build up to it, the rewards for the woman are much, much greater than simple male chastity. Under this arrangement the male is kept in chastity at all times, day and night, except when the woman is prepared to give him release or make love. More often than not the male will have to earn his release – because, quite naturally, he can use his mouth and fingers to provide her orgasms while still remaining locked up. One of the simplest ways to have an enforced male chastity relationship is to start out with short periods of time between his orgasms – say, once a week – and then build up to longer times. I have found the best results come when the male is allowed roughly seven to 14 orgasms a year. In other words, he’s let out to play about every four weeks – though sometimes less often.
The benefits of enforced male chastity are immense. First, masturbation will become a thing of the past and all of his sexual energy will be focused on you. Plus, you will never, ever have to worry about him cheating on you again.
Beyond that, you can set up any system of rewards you want in order to get him to earn his release – and trust me, a man who has been locked up for a while will do anything to get a chance to let his little cockette breathe in the open air! Make him do your laundry and the dishes. Have him make the bed every morning. From now on, he can handle the grocery shopping!
This also gives you the chance to correct behavior that has been bothering you. For example, you could tell him that if he leaves his dirty clothes on the floor he will earn an extra day in chastity. If he decides to go out with his friends that could mean an extra three days. If he wants your mother-in-law to visit, he should certainly be willing to put up with an extra six weeks in the cage!
Over time, the series of rewards and punishments associated with enforced male chastity will turn your husband into the best man he can be. You can literally train him to do anything once you have control over his cock!
The important thing is that you really have to mean it! Men will often beg and plead and come up with excuses to get you to unlock them. Don’t feel bad for him or give in – or else you will have undone all the good work you’ve put your time and effort into.
Also, be aware that after his release, when he has had his orgasm, he may revert to bad behavior for a short period of time. His ejaculation will fuel his manly ego. This is why you need to get the cage back onto him as quickly as possible, so that he gets back into his proper place in the marriage.
Ultimate Male Chastity Advice
Hello my little worms and darling wives! This is Mistress Sarah again, bringing you another installment of advice about the wonderful and natural world of male chastity. I’m here to give you advice and in this edition, I’m going to do so by responding to most frequently answered questions I’ve received over the years.
So, here we go with Mistress Sarah’s Ultimate Male Chastity Advice!
Q: Is male chastity a new thing? If so, how can we be sure it’s stood the test of time?
A. Male chastity is hardly new! In fact, sexual freedom for males is a modern mistake. For example, in Victorian times most upper class married males wore male chastity devices and were only released when their wives decided they wanted to have a baby. They believed that masturbation or too frequent ejaculation during intercourse made them weaker men (and they were right!). They would then provide oral or manual stimulation to their wives for their needs – or the wives would go to doctors and be treated several times a week with “hysteria machines,” which were essentially early vibrators.
Q. My husband has been in chastity for five days and says he can’t take it anymore! He claims it’s hurting him! What should I do? Perhaps he can’t handle chastity?
A. This is one of the most common male chastity advice questions I get and has the easiest response: Ignore him. Chastity won’t hurt him – he’s just being a big baby. If he bitches and moans too much, tell him he’s just earned an extra week in chastity. That will shut him up.
Q. I’ve tried to bring up the idea of male chastity with my wife and she’s not into it. What can I do?
A. Tell her honestly how much you masturbate, start making comments about a pretty girl at work and then give her a copy of my book “Beautiful Enslavement.” You’ll be locked up – like you should be – by the end of the month.
Q. I’ve been thinking about male chastity since I caught my husband masturbating while looking at porn on the computer. But, he swears it’s the first time he’s touched himself since we were married. What should I do?
A. Lock him up right away! He’s lying to you! Most men masturbate every day if they are not locked up. Some do it as many as five times a day! If you let him keep lying to you and touching his toot-toot, you’ll lose respect for him.
Q. How long should I keep my husband locked up?
A. This is really a matter of personal preference. In general, start out with short periods of time and then build up from there. I’ve found that a man is best behaved when he has less than 10 orgasms a year, though I know some friends who let their husband orgasm as much as 14 times a year and are still able to keep him under their thumbs.
Q. I know I need to keep my husband locked up, but I miss penetration! Please help me!
A. You have several options. You can get a chastity device that will allow you to attach a realistic dildo shaped like his penis. Then he can use that to penetrate you without getting release. You can also take his belt off for a short period of time and allow him to penetrate you, but then stop and lock him up again before he orgasms. Or, you can do what I do and find a young virile lover.
There are the basics. For more male chastity advice – and comprehensive information – I suggest purchasing my book, Beautiful Enslavement! It will help you understand why his satisfaction is not guaranteed!
Professsional Male Chastity Mistress
Hello. This is Mistress Sarah again, ready, willing and able to tell you about all of the basics related to male chastity relationships. If you’ve poked around the web at all looking for information about male chastity, then you’ve certainly come across the term “Male Chastity Mistress” and wondered exactly what it means.
The answer is simple: Many men realize they need to be in chastity, but are not in a relationship. Yet, they know they don’t have the self-control to keep themselves in line, and understand that they need a stern, yet loving, woman’s guidance. Good for them!
In this case, they hire a professional male chastity mistress who manages their orgasms for them. This can take many forms, but the most common is a “long distance key holder.”
What happens in this situation is that the man contracts with the male chastity mistress to be his guide through his new and improved life. After they have reached an agreement, he locks himself up and mails her the keys.
The two parties then keep in regular contact – usually online, but sometimes over the phone – and she gives him a series of tasks to do and monitors his progress. Usually she will require some evidence, such as a web cam picture that he has done what he has been told to do. This is because when it comes to their little pee-pees, men can never be trusted.
Then, when she has decided that he has done enough to earn his release, she will mail the key back to him so he can unlock himself. The day after he receives the key, he is required to mail it back to her or else their relationship will be terminated and she will add a very large additional charge onto his credit card.
Of course, this is only the most common way a male chastity mistress relationship works. He may be able to find a local dominatrix who will hold his keys for him and provide him with tasks and punishments. I remember I once had a chastity slave who displeased me because he did not do all the tasks I required. So, I simply mailed the keys to his ex girlfriend – so that he would have to explain to her that he was locked up and beg her to give him the keys. That little worm never disobeyed me again!
There are also Financial Domination Chastity Mistresses. These women will require the man to send them certain amounts of money over a period of time in order for him to get the keys back. Generally they will require more and more money over time and make him do more and more humiliating acts. This is not something for the meek or poor to experiment with. She may be willing to bankrupt you – and you may be willing to be bankrupted – in order to get your freedom.
Finally, there are Phone Chastity Mistresses. This is all just fun and games and is no way as serious as any other form of chastity play. Personally, I think it’s for wimps and losers, but they have the right to do what they want. In this situation a man calls up the mistress on the phone and for a fee pretends to be in a chastity belt. Then, she tells him that he needs to stay locked up and he begs for release. After a certain period of time she “gives in” and tells him he can “take off the belt” and have his freedom. In general, the man has never been locked up at all and is simply playing with himself while talking to her (and paying up to $10 a minute!). I consider this the opposite of chastity and do not recommend it to anyone.
Benefits Of Male Chastity
Welcome back to Mistress Sarah’s wonderful world of male chastity – where I take the time to give you the basics of male chastity. Of course, if you are really interested in the lifestyle you should read my book “Beautiful Enslavement,” which covers everything you’ve ever wanted to know about male chastity but your spouse was afraid to ask.
Over the years, the question I’ve gotten the most often from both men and women is, “What are the benefits of male chastity?” After all, it takes a bit of time, effort and expense and you want a return on that investment.
The truth is there are so many benefits it would take pages and pages to go into them all; but I can tell you a bit about the most important ones, so you can make the responsible decision to make male chastity a part of your relationship.
Men: Let’s start with the good stuff – while you will have considerably less orgasms, the ones you do have will be much, much more intense than anything you have ever before experienced. When you ejaculate every day, your penis becomes less sensitive. Plus, you build up a tolerance to the chemicals that are released during orgasm. This means you get less pleasure than you should. If you have enough self-control to become a responsible man and only orgasm every four or five weeks, you’ll get a much better rush – as nature intended. Beyond that, being in chastity will force you to find new ways to please your wife, which means you will become a much better lover. She’ll probably brag to her friends about how wonderful you are in bed! Won’t that be nice? You’ll become much more understanding of her body and her needs, and she will appreciate you and love you for it. Last but not least, you’ll free yourself from the shame of masturbation and no longer feel like a little boy who plays with his cock, but, instead, like a man who makes love to his woman!
Women: I suggest male chastity to any woman I know who is in a serious relationship with a man. There is no downside; and – to be honest – as long as your man is not locked up, your relationship is in jeopardy. Every single day that your man has control of his penis, he is masturbating while thinking about other women. Don’t you think that’s wrong? While he’s free he also has the chance to cheat on you – an option that almost half of all married men take advantage of. Do you really want to risk having a little tramp break up your marriage simply because your husband – like most men – has no self-control? Beyond that, it will make you relationship stronger and more romantic. Remember how he treated you when you were dating? Did you notice that once he “had” you and felt like he could make love to you anytime he wanted that he started being less romantic – and, often, less interested in sex? That’s because men are hard wired to conquer women sexually. If they think they can’t have us, they want us. If they know they can have us, they take us for granted. Therefore, the best way to turn him back into a romantic partner is to make sure that he knows he can’t have you – or any other woman – until you decide he’s earned it. This leads to all sorts of side benefits because you can use the carrot and stick approach of male chastity to get him to do chores around the house, rub your feet, take you out to dinner and buy you nice jewelry. He may never spend time out with the boys that should have been spent with you again!
Couples: The main benefit for any couple in a long-term relationship is that male chastity is simply the right thing to do. He’s made a vow to be faithful to you. As long as he is free, he will either be cheating on you with himself while masturbating – or with other women – or men. Men cannot control themselves and once they have pledged themselves to a woman have no right to sexual freedom. They simply can’t handle it.
Erotic Male Chastity Stories
Hello. This is Mistress Sarah, your guide through the wonderful world of male chastity. Today, I’d like to talk to you about male chastity stories. If you search the web, you’ll find hundreds of them.
The largest selection can be found at Altar Boy’s site, but you can also discover many more male chastity stories at Literotica.com and Asstr.org.
Reading stories is often a great way for a couple to introduce male chastity into their marriage. If the husband is interested in male chastity, he may show them to his wife as a way to reveal his deepest fantasies. If the wife is interested in chastising her husband, she may point him to stories so he can come to understand her desires.
Either way, reading male chastity belt stories allows a couple to become comfortable with male chastity before it becomes a real part of their relationship. You’ll discover that there are all types of erotic fiction related to male chastity.
You’ll find ones that deal with the woman forcing him into chastity. There are others where he is tricked into it. In still more, the man himself is the one begging for his wife to become his key holder. Some of the stories are extreme; some are romantic.
The important thing to remember is that these are simply stories. What goes on in erotic fiction rarely resembles what happens in real life. So, don’t let the stories you read build up your expectations too fast.
In the real world, things don’t go as smoothly as they do in the stories. Your man may not be able to handle real chastity for long periods of time at first. You may have to build him up to it. The first chastity belt your purchase may not quite fit him, and he may be able to escape.
You may not understand his frustration threshold and push him too far. In many male chastity belt stories, the wife locks up her husband for a year or more the first time she puts the device on him. In reality, this would almost never work – as it would be too much of a shock to the system.
Remember, the entire point of male chastity is that men have problems controlling themselves. If they didn’t, you wouldn’t need to lock his cockette up in the first place!
This is why you can’t take male chastity belt stories too seriously. Don’t fixate on any one story or particular fantasy. Instead, use the stories as inspiration for you to experiment so you can find out what works for you.
You have all the time in the world, and there will always be a few mistakes and miscues along the way. What you can do is ask your partner to point out the stories that turn him or her on the most.
Then, figure out what it is about those stories that are stroking their libido – and try to make that a part of your male chastity belt play. For example, some men are interested in male chastity because they want to feel that their penis is too small for their wife. If that’s the case, be sure to come up with a little pet name for his penis that is slightly humiliating. Then comment that if he were a real man, you wouldn’t have to lock him up at all!
On the other hand, if you are the man and notice that it’s the power she can get from keeping you locked up, be sure to play on those fantasies. Get on your hands and knees and rub her feet while she holds the key above you. Ask her if there are chores you can do around the house to earn your release from chastity.
This way, you can make male chastity belt stories not only an introduction to the lifestyle, but also as a continuing guide as you get deeper and deeper into the delights of blissful denial.
In other words, keep an open mind – even if you have a locked cock!
Basic Male Chastity Guide
Hello again! This is Mistress Sarah, and I remain your faithful guide through the world of male chastity. If you are reading this you are either a superbly submissive man who wants to bring up the idea of male chastity to his wife, or you are a delightfully dominant woman who has realized her man needs training.
Either way, you desire information on the wonderful world of male chastity and how it can be incorporated into your relationship. I understand. Every day, I get emails asking me about male chastity.
For a perfect understanding of the lifestyle, I recommend my guide, Beautiful Enslavement. It has everything you ever wanted to know about male chastity but were afraid to ask! But, I understand that some of you are not ready for that much information.
You may simply be curious about exploring your fantasies. Or, your partner may have mentioned the idea of male chastity; and you want to know a few of the ground rules before you decide if it is right for you
That’s fine – and it is the reason why I’m willing to let you in on some of the basic lessons of male chastity. Therefore, today I’m going to provide you with a basic male chastity guide that should answer some of your questions.
Q. Why would I want to lock up my husband’s penis?
A. Quite simply, because men can’t control themselves. He is masturbating much more than you think, and he really should be saving up that passion for you. Once you control his ability to orgasm, all of his sexual energy will be directed at you. It will be like you are dating again! Plus, shouldn’t he act like a man and make love to his wife, rather than play with his pee-pee like a little boy?
Q. How long should I keep him locked up?
A. That’s entirely up to you! Most couples start out locking him up for two or three days at a time and then build up to a week or more. Obviously, any time you want to make use of his penis, you can let him out – as long as that’s your decision and not his!
Q. Won’t I miss out on sex if he’s locked up?
A. No. Not at all. You’ll probably end up having more orgasms with him than ever before. You’d be amazed at how skilled he becomes at oral sex if he realizes that he needs to make you cum before he can have his fun. Plus, you are in control and can unlock him whenever you like. Finally, you can get attachments that are exact replicas of his penis to put on the belt so that you can feel the sensations of his penetration, without letting him out of his cage.
Q. Could chastity hurt my husband?
A. Not really. Men do need to ejaculate every so often for their prostrate health, but there are ways to make this happen without releasing him from chastity or giving him an orgasm. I discuss those methods in my book. If you don’t keep his tube or cage clean, there is some risk of infection – but you can easily ice him down and bathe his penis every week or two to avoid this risk. Also, some male chastity belts have small holes that allow him to clean his penis without releasing it.
Q. Could male chastity hurt my marriage?
A. Absolutely not! If anything, it will bring love and romance back to your relationship! He’ll start buying you flowers and taking you out to dinner again. He’ll stop hanging out with the boys and spend all his time with you. He’ll take over lots of your chores around the house. He’ll hug and kiss you more than he has in years. And, best of all, he’ll do everything in his power to keep you constantly sexually satisfied! What could be better than that?
Q. What do I do if I put him in chastity and then he begs to get out?
A. Ignore him. Men can be wimps sometimes; but with training they will get used to it. Lots of men ask for chastity and then after an hour or two decide it’s too frustrating. This is not your problem. Once he’s agreed to be locked up, make him stick to his agreement. It won’t hurt him. If you really need to shut him up because he’s annoying you, tell him that the more he complains, the longer you’ll keep him locked up.
